Sunday, March 22, 2009
Two Weeks Later...
It’s been two weeks since my miscarriage on Sunday, March 8th. I’ve been able to gain a little bit of perspective about my experience. I no longer burst into tears at the mere thought of losing my baby, or at the sight of a pregnant woman. I’m feeling a bit more “normal” every day. Every day that gets me further away from March 8th is a better day.
Here’s what I’ve been feeling...
- I’m really looking forward to having a fun summer with my boys. Before all this happened, Mark and I were planning on going away alone together for a few days before the chaos of having 3 kids started. Now we are planning to spend about 4 days in San Diego with the boys.
- I’m looking forward to enjoying my boys better now that I have more energy to play with them and more space for them in my mind
-I can start working hard on getting my pre-pre-pre pregnancy body back now that I know I’ll never be pregnant again. In only 3 years, I’ve been up 40 lbs (Tommy’s pregnancy), then down 25 lbs, then up another 20 lbs (Ben’s pregnancy), then down 30 lbs, then up 15 lbs. My poor body needs a break!
-I’m looking forward to clearing out all the baby clothes we have (about 6 boxes worth in the garage!) and giving them to someone who can use them.
- To see my son in Heaven someday
-To see what plans God has for me
- For feeling optimistic
- For enjoying myself in ways that I couldn’t while I was pregnant
Here’s what I’ve been doing:
- I’ve lost 10 lbs since March 6 (the day we found out our baby had died)
- I am eating healthy. I was eating healthy food before, but was also allowing myself some treats and extra portions. Not any more.
- I work out at the gym three times a week doing strength training to tone muscles that have been wrecked by childbirth
- I walk at least 1.5 miles every day, often more
- Housework! I’ve been so tired the past 4 months that I haven’t been able to keep my house as tidy as Mark and I like. Now that I have energy, our house is looking a lot better and is more enjoyable to be in.